Then the other day, something happened that made me realize that this particular piece of advice is so much easier said than done. I was chatting with a friend and she mentioned that she was going to be taking a Photoshop class on Friday nights. I thought about asking her about it and maybe signing up too. I thought about it for about 2 seconds and then I realized that this is way too busy of a time of year for me to take on anything new. This Friday alone, my kids have to be in 3 different places at roughly the same time. But that's not my only issue with it, I realized that I really don't have the desire to learn Photoshop anyway. I don't want to get into a lot of editing. Don't get me wrong, I edit all my pictures but I edit strictly for exposure and white balance and some cropping but that's about it. And I need to be content with that and offer what I want to offer, essentially I have to play my game. And what I decide to offer in terms of services is my decision, just like what someone wants out of their portraits is theirs. And if someone wants what I have to offer, great. But if they want something more? Then I'll be like Kris Kringle in "Miracle on 34th Street" and happily and helpfully recommend them to someone else.
This whole thought process took me a couple of days to get straight in my mind so it really was a valuable reminder for me as a photographer and as a parent. As a photographer, I needed the reminder to stay true to myself and my wishes. I am really content with amateur photographer status which, to me, really means that my main objective is to satisfy my own creative urge. And as a parent, I needed the reminder that if it takes me a couple of days to sort things out in my head, then asking an 11 year old to be aware of it in a game situation might be a harder lesson to grasp than what I gave it credit for.